Permission Granted.

I love this! It reminds me to protect ME. This gives me permission to do things that would normally make me feel guilty. At times we all need permission to NOT do certain things that are not good for us at that moment.

Things That You Don’t Need to Feel Guilty About

I LOVE this list!!! I think that one that was left off is taking time for yourself.

I know as a parent and wife, I use to feel guilty about taking time for just me, and only me. I felt like taking time for myself was selfish, but I realized that I needed me time so that I could be a better mother and a better wife.

We Are All Like a Tree.

Our branches:

Like the branches on a tree, our paths, choices, rights, wrongs, decisions, our own negative thoughts about ourselves and mistakes spread out over our lives.  They can cast shadows over us or they can allow the sun to shine in.  But these are things that we can change, like a branch, we can cut them off.  We can change our path or our decisions. We can remove people or cut them out of our lives or allow negative people to stay in and cast shadows over us.

Our trunk: 

Like the trunk of a tree our bodies absorb whatever we allow to enter them.  Positive or negative, good or bad.  We can “feed” it healthy thoughts and feelings or we can “feed” it junk and crap and negative thoughts about ourselves.  But, in the end, we can still “cut down” or change the trunk of our tree.  We can even go as far as to dig up the stump if we cut our tree down.

Our Roots:

Oh but the roots – our true selves!  That’s where the magic is in our tree.  You can’t change or remove all of those roots or our true self.  Think about the root system of a tree, the roots can go for yards and yards. You can’t dig all of the roots up, you just try to cut through them.  Your roots, that’s your true self, that’s who you really are.  The loving person, the compassionate person, the responsible person, the honest person, the nurturing person.  This is the person who cries in Old Yeller, the same person who feels empathy for others and the person (roots / true self) that the world can’t change.  

So embrace your inner tree.  Cut off branches that weigh you down. Get rid of the branches that don’t let the sun in.  Feed your trunk positive self-talk, healthy thoughts and feelings.  Feed your body all the good stuff.  Let your roots run wild!

 https://blog.tentree.com/10-life-lessons-you-can-learn-from-trees/

Mindfulness in Minutes

What is mindfulness? We hear so much about it, but do you know what it is? Mindfulness is a type of meditation.

Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us. https://www.mindful.org/what-is-mindfulness/

It allows you to focus on being intensely aware of what you’re sensing and feeling in the moment, without interpretation or judgment.

Practicing mindfulness involves breathing methods, guided imagery, and other practices to relax the body and mind and help reduce stress.

Mindfulness can be achieved in just a few minutes. You do not need an hour to meditate. In the book Mindfulness On The Go, author Padraig O’Morain gives wonderful ideas on how to practice mindfulness in just moments and they fit into your busy life. https://www.padraigomorain.com/mindfulness-on-the-go-book/

Some of the benefits of mindfulness are:

– it lowers stress

– it lowers anxiety

– it can lower the risk of depression

– it allows you to handle anger in a different way

– it allows you to handle resentment in a different way

– it allows to you accept things that you can not change

– it can boost your creativity

One exercise that I personally like to do with my son, he just turned 12, when he is feeling overwhelmed and anxious is what I call the rule of 5. He has to close his eyes and tell me 5 things that he can hear while taking deep breaths. He has to tell me things that he smells (this is usually less than 5) and he has to tell me 5 things that he can feel.

Usually the conversation goes something like, “I hear the car passing on the road, the neighbors dog barking, the bird singing, the air/heat just turned on, and my breathing. I smell the simmering pot, I feel my clothes, I feel the air on my skin, I feel the cats fur, I feel my breathing, I feel the blanket…..

By the end of the exercise he is calmer. He is more relaxed. This is just mindfulness. It brings him back to a center and then we can talk about what was going on to cause him the stress in the beginning.

Check out Padriag O’Morain on Twitter talking about mindfulness. https://twitter.com/PadraigOMorain?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor

Inspiration of the Day

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover. — Mark Twain