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My Story is like your story
My story is like your story. It’s about learning to find my way, identify my passion, balance life’s many demands, and learning to become a complete woman. Have I made it there yet? No, there’s always room for improvement. Have I grown and changed? Yes! And I want to help you grow, too.
My experiences are an important part of my education. They shaped me as much or more than any of the formal training I completed, and I believe that the lessons I learned are worth sharing. I learned to listen, I learned compassion, I learned gratitude, and I learned to persevere. I experienced depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I still do. I learned to love deeper, live better, and control my intent. But most of all, I learned to grow!
SkyeHelps is the product of my passion, formal training, and life lessons. It’s where I bring together the raw ingredients that make me who I am. It’s where I find fulfillment by listening to your stories and helping you make sense of them in the context of your other life experiences. And, because I’ve had to do the same things that I ask you to do, I get it. No, our experiences are not exactly alike. But, they’re more similar than they are different, and I’m also not afraid to listen to you and hear about your specific feelings.
My story helps me be the best counselor I can be. When you choose me, you choose a counselor who:
- Has compassion and empathy
- Who listens well and can teach you to listen too
- Who can help you make a plan for growth
- Who will hold you accountable but understands your limitations, too
My story includes others
My story is the story of my children, my partnerships, my family, my friends, my education, and my life’s work. There are many people in my life, and the person I am today was molded, in part, by those who have touched my life.
My story includes formal education
Nobody wants a counselor who only “went to the school of hard knocks.” You want a professional. You want someone equipped with the proper tools and a working knowledge of how to use them. You probably also want someone intelligent and creative enough to know that sometimes old tools can be used in new ways. And whoever you choose, you also want them to have enough life experience to know that sometimes the fancy tools are no substitute for the simpler things that worked well in the past.
If I you think I just described the perfect training for a counselor, then you’ll probably like how I work with you. I never stop learning, and I always try to do part of my thinking “outside the box.” The goal, as I see it, is to provide you with the very best counseling experience possible, and that means that I spend a lot of time learning about the tools of my profession and keeping up-to-date with new ideas. You can read more about my training below:
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Master of Science, Clinical Mental Health Counseling,
Bachelor of Science, Psychology
Certificate of General Mediation,
Mediation Specialist Certificate: Domestic Relations
LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor), GA
CPTS (Certified Professional Trauma Specialist)
After earning her undergraduate degree in psychology, Skye worked as a Therapeutic Wilderness Instructor at a boarding school for Oppositional Defiant youth. She returned to school to earn her Master of Science degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and a certificate in General Mediation with a specialist certificate in Domestic Relations. Skye has worked with Family Treatment Court, Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Services, Department of Family and Children Services, Individuals of all ages and a wide range of issues.
Hi. I’m Blair. I teach yoga. The story that led me there is painful… but the fruit is sweet. I’d love to share it with you so we can know each other better. And, perhaps, you will be curious to explore what Yoga can offer to your journey as well. Here goes:
All my life I’ve had mental health struggles. At different seasons this has included wildly disordered moods, extreme panic disorder, physically crippling anxiety, all 50 of the grey shades of depression, eating disorder, self harm, agoraphobia, chronic pain, and obsessive compulsions. There has been suffering in my story. But also hope. Things crumbled… but then they had a second chance. The end result is very different than I expected. But also more beautiful than I could have imagined.
I was raised in a strict, fundamentalist religious household. My parents were good people, but my psychological issues didn’t fit into their world view. They chalked my struggle up to a “desperately wicked heart.” They said I could only change if the Holy Spirit magically transformed me. My only hope was prayer. I wasn’t given any other resources to understand or support my experience. In fact, I have a vivid memory of the day my mother warned me never to go to a psychiatric doctor and to be very wary of therapists, because if people found out no one would be my friend, no one would trust me, no one would marry me, and I would never get a job. I believed her.
So, when I had a clinical level mental breakdown at the age of 24 (becoming catatonically depressed, suicidal, and unable to leave my house without passing out from panic) I had a lot of work to do.
Everything came crashing down. I was left in a Rubble Heap of old patterns I could no longer sustain. Patterns of harsh perfectionism, work addiction, ignoring my body, and controlling everything. Those parts of myself had been working so hard for years to manage a terrified little girl inside me who believed I was never going to be enough, never going to be safe, and never going to be loved. But there were Riches in the Ruins.
My first invitation toward a new way of being came in a yoga class. The ancient, wiry lady who taught the class at the YMCA said, “Notice the little part of you that feels calm, confident, and easy… This is your True Self… you can return here whenever you need to.” That sentence changed my life. First it terrified me, because I had been brought up to see myself as “desperately wicked”; my best efforts a pile of “filthy rags”; utterly beyond hope “apart from Christ.” But still the sweet allure of this sentence called to something deep inside me that needed help.
I revisited my theology. Personally, I needed to start there because it was the source of so much of my rigid inability to seek healing. As my faith was healed (transformed from an angry, ruthless grumpy thing into a warm, welcoming, loving view of the world) I began to soften enough to receive what Yoga had to offer.
Yoga offered practical tools to have a healthy body, mind, and spirit. I began to learn a new way of interacting with the world. Here are a few of the most important lessons:
First, Yoga taught me to welcome all the subtle layers of my experience. Welcome tired, energetic, sad, happy, angry, calm, weak, powerful, vulnerable, and fierce. Welcome certainty and uncertainty. Welcome fear, disgust, silliness, and play. Welcome mischief, seriousness, passion, boredom, my deep parts and my frivolous sides. Welcome it all. Welcome each one as a messenger intending to point me toward what I really need in the moment. If I could welcome them, then I didn’t need to suppress, reject, or resist anything. I could invite it all up to the surface, and then choose how to respond. Many symptoms in my body which had seemed random and out of control began to heal, as I simply noticed what was happening.
Next, Yoga taught me that I wasn’t trapped in my experience. I did have a choice. I did have agency, efficacy, and power. I learned that I could steer my body with nonjudgemental awareness, muscle relaxation, and breath. I could, literally, move myself away from suffering and toward comfort and ease.
Little by little, Yoga offered me it’s best lesson of all: There is No Perfect Performance. That’s why its called A Yoga “Practice.” Each day brings fresh opportunities to flourish, fall on our faces, flail ridiculously, and make friends with ourselves. Our True Self. That calm, steady Self; the Friend within. It goes with us wherever we go. We can return there whenever we need to. That’s Yoga.
If you are interested in cultivating a practice of your own, I would love to support you in that. True Yoga meets you exactly where you are. You don’t need to be fit, flexible, or even “ready.” You just need to show up. Come as you are. Yoga Helps.
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|Intake (Prerequisite for individual, couples, and family counseling as well as co-yoga.)||$250||50 Minutes|
|Individual Counseling (Intake is prerequisite.)||$150||50 Minutes|
|Couples/Family Counseling (Intake is prerequisite.)||$175||50 Minutes|
|Couples/Family Weekend Intensive (Skye meets with each member individually followed by joint sessions over the course of 2 days.)||$1,200||360 Minutes|
|Drug/Alcohol, Parenting, or Domestic Violence Assessment (Additional Court Fees Apply)||$1,500||50-120 Minutes|
|Group Yoga with Blair Kawa ( $20.00 price per person) Free to SkyeHelps patients. Classes are Monday mornings at 8:00 at the SkyeHelps Yoga Center.||$0||60 Minutes|
|Yoga with Blair Kawa (patient only)||$55||60 Minutes|
|Co-Yoga with Blair Kawa (Skye and Blair meet with patient together; Intake is prerequisite.)||$205||50 Minutes|