I’m just tired was the answer that my friend gave me the other day when I was talking to her. She had a different tone in her voice, so I asked her what was wrong. “I’m just tired” she said. For some reason, her answer wasn’t good enough for me. So I asked her, what did that mean? She looked at me for a moment and gave me a weak smile and said “you know what that means”. I her that I didn’t know what she meant by it. Was she tired because she didn’t sleep well? Was she tired because she was getting sick? Was it a mental or physical tired?
What Does I’m Tired Really Mean
Yes, there are times when I’m tired, means, dang I need a nap! I didn’t get any sleep last night. But many times the answer is much deeper than that. My friend, was tired from emotional turmoil that her siblings are putting her through. She is in a battle everyday with them. They are relentless. She feels like she is in a losing battle and she wants to throw in the towel. She is done! But she doesn’t throw in the towel, because she is fighting for all of the right reasons. She’s simply tired of the drama, battle, and the emotional fatigue.
Sometimes I’m tired, means that a person is overwhelmed. Other times it can mean that the person is in sensory overload and needs time to be alone. Often times when I say that I’m tired, I really mean that I am mentally worn out because my thoughts take me down a rabbit hole or I spiral. I can’t turn off my brain or my negative self talk. I think about a problem and then another problem pops in my head and then another and then another. This is what I call my spiral.
So the next time someone tells you that they are tired, find out why. Lead a listening ear and maybe you can help them.
I love this one! Have you ever had someone near you that makes your anxiety kick in? You don’t know what it is, but there is something about that person that makes you anxious and you want to get away from them? Your body is rejecting their energy. This is your body letting you know that there is something about that person’s energy that yours does not like. Listen to your body! Your spirit, gut, or whatever you want to call it will pick up on things before your brain does. https://skyehelps.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=1223&action=edit This link will take you to a prior post that I wrote about listening to your gut feelings. If you have the time, I would encourage you to read it, if you want more information on listening to your gut and rejecting others negative energy.
I feel like as women, we are so busy encouraging and lifting others up, that we forget about ourselves. We are the caregivers and our family and friends come to us for most everything. And even thou we love our family and friends, we get lost and overlooked.
We also need to be encouraged and lifted up. We need to be reminded that we are more than a wife, mother, co-worker, etc. So as you go through your day, remember….. You are brave. You are beautiful inside and out. You are strong. You are smart. And most of all, you are loved.
Here is a list of the 7 doctors that we need in our lives.
I love this list! it was posted on sun-gazing.com I gave this list a good bit of thought before I added it to the blog. I realized that all seven of these things make me feel so much better. They help with depression, anxiety, weight, and my overall being. http://www.facebook.com/sungazing
Think about it, don’t you feel better, happier, and less stressed when you are out in the fresh air and sunshine? I enjoy walking, so I get the exercise, sunshine, and fresh air all at once.
I read a book years ago, Eat Right For Your Blood Type, https://dadamo.com/. When I follow the diet that is right for my blood type, I feel amazing! It’s crazy, but there is a difference. I have more energy and feel less sluggish.
We have heard all of our lives that laughter is the best medicine. And it is!! So laugh today. Get outside in the sun and breath in the fresh air. Walk your dog. Drink some water. Eat how you know that you should and get the rest that you need.
I would have to say that this is the most accurate description of anxiety and depression that I have seen. Often times you are so tired. It’s more of an emotional tiredness than a physical tiredness. You want to be productive, but either fear of failure or the tiredness stops you. It’s wanting to be with your family and friends, but the thought of being around people makes your anxiety go up and you start to feel overwhelmed. You want to be alone, because it feels safe and you want to feel loved. It’s wanting to close yourself off from everything and everyone and needing a hug from the ones that you love.
People who have never dealt with anxiety and depression don’t understand the constant battle.
This is National Hug Your Dog Day!!! Ok, I don’t know about you, but I don’t need a special day to hug on my fur baby. I hug and love on them all the time!
Let’s look at the mental health (and physical health) benefits to having a dog.
Research supports that being around dogs (and cats) puts you in a better mood and offers stress relief. They cut down on anxiety and depression.
The actual act of petting a dog can lower your blood pressure.
Oftentimes, we are more active because of our 4 legged friends. We find ourselves out for walks, maybe even a jog. Even if we just take our pooch to the dog park, we are getting vitamin D from the sun and that boosts our moods.
When we are out in public with our dog, it increases our social interaction. People are going to smile and we are going to smile back. People are going to stop and ask to pet your dog and strike up a conversation with you. In fact, if you walk your dog around the same time daily and in the same area, you are bound to run into the same people.
Dogs offer us unconditional love and companionship. They love to greet us when we come home and lavish us with love and affection. They cuddle with us and keep our deepest secrets. They even warn us of people we should stay away from. My dog has even been known to wipe away my tears.
When I was first asked to write about how to get the most out of therapy, I thought that this was way out of my league. Yes, I have been in therapy and I knew what worked for me, but to tell other people what worked, that was another thing. Then I sat back and I thought about it. What if what I thought just made sense, opened someone else’s eyes and helped them during their sessions? So I decided to give it a go.
The first way to get the most out of therapy is to SHOW UP! Yes, we all have days where we don’t want to go. We don’t want to face our issues, our fears, our failures, or ourselves, but that’s what therapy is all about. Therapy will not work if you don’t show up. I have found that the days that I don’t want to go are often a break through day. These are the days that my emotions are running high and I need the outlet. I may not want to talk, but I NEED to talk.
The second way to get the most out of therapy is to communicate with your therapist. Be open. Be honest. They can’t help you if you hold anything back from them. Say whatever you feel. Don’t censor yourself due to fear of being judged. Don’t hold back emotions. Be willing and able to show your emotions. If you feel like you need to cry, cry. It’s ok. If you’re mad, then be mad. The goal is to work through whatever is causing the emotion. Let your therapist know what you need or why you are there. Let them know what you want to talk about. Let them know what’s on your mind. I know this is hard, I’ve been there. I’ve held back and not been open and I only cheated myself. When I open up I get so much out of the session.
The third way to get the most out of therapy is to do the work outside of our sessions. Make a conscious effort to practice what you learned in your session when you are not in a session. If you learned how to change your thinking from negative self talk to positive self talk during your session, then pay attention when you fall back into negative self talk. Think about what you learned and apply it. If your therapist gives you homework, do the homework. It may seem silly, but it is to help you and reinforce what you talked about during your session.
Another thing that is helpful to get the most out of therapy is keeping a journal. Write about how you feel, what you’re doing, what changes you have made, and the progress that you have made. This is a great tool for when you are having a bad day, you can look back and see how far you have already come.
I also recommend setting goals with your therapist. Set small goals, this way you can achieve them in a shorter time. Set long term goals so you have something to focus on. These goals can be something like planning an outing with a friend, having less negative self talk, or whatever you want them to be.
Remember when you are in a therapy session it is your time. It’s all about you for that session. You can make the most of it. You can open up. You can face those demons and fears. This is your time! Embrace it!